What you need to do to get rid of anxiety

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

American writer Brianna Wiest talks about how to deal with anxiety and stress, and the causes of anxiety.

1. The opposite of addiction is not inner balance, but contact with reality. The same goes for anxiety. Anxiety manifests itself in the fact that a person ceases to be present in the present moment, he is cut off from what is happening, from other people and from himself. At such times, you need to reconnect with reality.

2. Allow yourself to want what you really want. Without this, you will not be able to get rid of anxiety. It doesn't matter what you want: find a life partner, find a new job, earn more money, get recognition from colleagues. Just be aware and accept it, even if you think others think you are superficial, flawed, or think that you do not “love yourself” enough.

3. If you're having a hard time figuring out what you really want, take a closer look at your deepest, deepest fears. What is hidden on their wrong side? This is what you want.

4. Be grateful for what makes you uncomfortable. The sad and surprising fact is that happy people usually have no incentive to develop, they are happy with everything. If you are experiencing any discomfort, it should serve as a signal to you that you are on the cusp of something new and better, but you need to act to achieve this.

5. Constructiveness and productivity should be your best friends. This is not about ticking boxes by completing tasks from a hundred-item list. At the end of each day, you should know that today you managed to do something (anything!) Useful for yourself.

6. You can usually get rid of "unreasonable" anxiety by engaging in a specific practice. Anxiety over trifles usually indicates the existence of real problems that you are avoiding solving.

7. You have to start from where you are now, use what you have, and do what you can do. Everything else is an escape from problems, real life and yourself. Change is the result of a long and persistent development. If you think otherwise, you are living with illusions that prevent you from coping with what bothers you.

8. Try to make a conscious contact with someone or re-establish contact with people who are already in your life. It may be just one person you trust and interact with. This interaction will be the starting point for developing healthy emotional attachments. Needing love does not mean showing weakness.

9. Buy a notebook specifically so that when you feel yourself twisting into a pretzel inside you, write down everything that comes to your mind, even if it seems terrible, disgusting, shameful or full of self-loathing to you. Do not keep thoughts and feelings to yourself! When you do this a few times, you will notice that you really feel better.

10. The only thing you need to do when you are overcome by anxiety or panic is to try to calm down. At such moments, you lose clarity of thought, so in this state you should not make any important decisions and take on any obligations. Find out what can help you calm down (snacking, bathing, chatting, or any activity you really enjoy) and get yourself out of the negative before you get to work.

11. You need to understand how to live in the present moment, even if such a way of life and thinking scares you, causes boredom, seems unattainable. The emergence of feelings of anxiety gives us a signal that we are too much stuck in thoughts about the past or the future, and this affects the decisions we make in the present.

12. You must take some action to get rid of what prevents you from fulfilling your true desires.

The real changes take place at the level of actions. A person begins to do something completely differently, not the way he did it before.

Cheryl Strayed American writer and publicist

13. Read on. If you are not reading anything, then the reason is probably not that you do not like reading itself, but that you have not found a book that could captivate you. What you are reading at the moment will affect how you will be in decades from now. Find articles and essays online that tell people how they deal with their fears. When you find out that many people you don't know are experiencing the same feelings, you will stop feeling lonely in your problems. Read about things that are difficult for you to understand, about things that terrify or delight you. Just read, damn it!

14. You can take control of your senses. It is important to keep this in mind. It's not difficult at all. Just tell yourself, “I don’t want to experience the emotions that I am experiencing now, so I’ll focus on other aspects of this problem.”

15. If you believe that you cannot just take and become happy, you cannot influence how you feel and what you think, you will condemn yourself to an extremely difficult life. In this case, you do not need to read this article anymore, because only the belief to the contrary can help you cope with the problems.

16. You will not get rid of anxiety and fear forever. If you do not give a damn about what is happening in your life, and you are even a little curious about what is happening around you, then you will always come across something that causes fear or anxiety. Your ultimate goal is not to eliminate these sensations once and for all. You need to train your thinking so that you feel happy, despite stressful factors, and not fall into a stupor when they appear. That's all.

17. To gain such control over thinking, some people will only need to change the focus of their perception of what is happening. Others will have years of treatment with the help of various drugs and therapies and such active work on themselves as they have never done before. This is the battle of our whole life and the main debt that we must pay to ourselves. If you want to fight with someone, let it be yourself.

18. Any problem is not a problem per se. The problem remains a problem as long as you perceive it that way. Your internal alarm system should now sound an alarm because it doesn't fit your usual way of thinking and behaving. This does not mean that you are rushing towards endless inevitable suffering. This suggests that somewhere deep inside you understand that you can live differently, better. This means you know what you need, even if it scares you.

19. Choose love. This may sound like annoying useless advice, but you shouldn't part with the people who make your eyes shine, you shouldn't give up what you enjoy doing (even if it's not related to your work), give up your innermost desires. Choose love, even if the choice scares you. In fact, your fear of doing something is proportionate to your desire to do it.

20. Learn to express your feelings, including pain. This does not mean that you should use it as an excuse for irresponsible behavior. You need to learn to admit that you are feeling pain, to express it in understandable words and to accept the fact that sometimes you have to experience such emotions.

21. Learn to get rid of inner emotional slagging. For example, if you do not allow yourself to accept the fact that your ex hurt you a lot and feel that pain, you will constantly project your negative experience onto your new partner, fear that he will hurt you too, believe that you should not even trying to start a new relationship. In this way, you will reproduce exactly the situation that you are most afraid of. You can only avoid this by understanding and accepting your feelings. Sometimes life is cruel, unfair, sometimes it is simply terrifying. But…

We all lie in the gutter, but some of us are staring at the stars.

Oscar Wilde

22. Separate the sensations in your body from what you think they are talking about. When you are upset, ask yourself how your body is actually feeling at the moment. Most likely, it will be just a little tension or discomfort. Everything else you just thought of yourself.

23. You don't have to trust all your emotions. According to generally accepted views, it is the emotions that should be followed, but this is very unreasonable, given the various reasons that can cause them (random thoughts, memories, and so on). If you blindly trust all your senses, they will constantly throw you off balance. Determine for yourself which of your feelings really mean something and which do not.

24. Use the most powerful self-development technique: imagine yourself from the future. If you find it difficult to decide whether you need to have children or not, just imagine yourself as a 75-year-old. Would you like to be surrounded by family members, or would you be quite comfortable living alone? Imagine what your life will be like in three years. Would you be happy that you didn't try to keep the relationship, that you didn't make any savings, or spent a lot of time watching TV, while you could write a book, start your own business, or start composing music?

Imagine your life through the eyes of the person you aspire to become. This will help you decide on a solution to many of the issues that bother you.