2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44
Thank you is the most underrated word in the world. It is appropriate in almost any circumstance. Let's look at seven common situations where we say whatever we want, when instead we just say thank you.
1. When did you receive a compliment?
We spoil a compliment when we start to deny everything or behave too modestly. You may be afraid to sound arrogant or smug.
The problem is, when you turn down a genuine compliment, you are pushing away the person who is nice enough to say something good to you. By simply saying “thank you,” you show your appreciation for the person who compliments you and helps you enjoy the moment.
By accepting a compliment, you acknowledge your own capabilities. When you reject it, you give up your own achievements.
Receiving compliments is fun and enjoyable, but often we screw things up. There is no need to sabotage such gestures. Accept them with gratitude and enjoy the moment.
2. When you are late
There is nothing good about being late. This is a lot of stress for the person who is late, and disrespect for the person who is waiting.
It may seem strange that you are thanking someone for the trouble they have given them, but this is the only correct answer.
Most people from the doorway declare: "Sorry, I'm late." The problem with this answer is that the situation is still only about you. Just say thank you. So you will switch places with the person who is in an uncomfortable position, waiting for you: "Thank you for waiting."
Sometimes, because of our mistakes, someone else suffers. Our standard response in a situation like this is to apologize for our oversight, but it's better to thank other people for their patience and loyalty. Thank them for what they did despite your mistakes.
3. When you comfort someone
When someone comes to you with bad news, the situation is very delicate. You want to be a good friend, but sometimes the right words don't come to mind. We often think it's a great idea to find the positive side of a problem situation. "Well, at least, but you …"
This is erroneous behavior because your words cannot change anything. All you really need to do is just be there and thank you for the trust you have shown.
In difficult times, we do not need words to somehow ease the pain, we need a person who can share the grief with us. When you don't know what to say, just say thank you and be there.
4. When you receive constructive criticism
Criticism can be very helpful, but we rarely see it in this light. It could be an unflattering review of your job from your boss, or an email from a disgruntled client, to which our standard reaction is defensive. The correct response to criticism is to simply say thank you and use the information you receive to improve.
Nobody likes failure, but any failure is also a result. Respond to constructive criticism with gratitude and use this information to improve.
5. When you receive unfounded criticism
Sometimes criticism has nothing useful in it. This is just a manifestation of the vindictiveness, envy and pettiness of some people. One of the best ways to deal with haters is to say thank you and move on.
When you thank someone for criticism, however unfair, it immediately neutralizes the power of their statements. Thanks to this reaction, the situation will not develop into a meaningless argument.
Releasing the desire to win every argument is a sign of maturity. Is someone wrong on the internet? So what. Better and more important than any victory in an argument is to live the way you see fit.
6. When someone gives unsolicited advice
A common situation in the gym. Everyone has their own opinion on how to perform the exercise correctly. Many people try to just be helpful, but unsolicited advice is very annoying. Defensive reactions - sarcasm, excuses, rudeness - will not lead to anything good. The best answer? Just say thank you.
By pointing out the shortcomings of others, you are not getting rid of your own. Thank people for their participation, even if they weren't asked for advice.
7. If you are not sure what to thank for this
If in doubt, just say thank you. You will not lose anything. Are you really worried that you thank people too often?
"Should I send a thank you card in this situation?" Yes, I should. Should I leave a tip? Even if you don't, at least say thank you.
Say thanks more often.
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