12 ways to get rid of excess: thoughts, fears, kilograms and things

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

These elementary tips will help you put things in order in your home, environment and thoughts.

1. Use the 90% Rule

The 90% rule applies to any choice or dilemma. Rate options on a scale from 0 to 100. If a particular option gets a score below 90, discard it. This criterion forces you to choose ideal opportunities rather than letting other people or the universe do it for you.

2. Get rid of unnecessary "yes"

Unable to refuse people, we say “yes” more often than we would like. Time spent on tasks is irretrievable, and the feeling of joy from them is zero.

Here's an exercise to help you say no. Put the lace in your pocket in the morning. Every time you say no clearly and distinctly, tie a knot on it. In the evening, summarize: if you count five knots, you can no longer do this exercise.

3. Slow down

When we are nervous, afraid, and stressed, we move faster. And we need to slow down. Just one yawn will help. It will signal the parasympathetic nervous system, which is responsible for relaxation, that the danger has passed, and will help calm down.

4. Reload thoughts

Our memory is experiencing colossal overloads: work questions, household chores, meetings … As a result, we cannot remember even an elementary shopping list. The method of contemplating a point will help to put things in order in consciousness.

Pick a point on a wall or piece of paper and concentrate on it. Your attention will jump from side to side - don't resist it, but rather encourage it. Each time you notice that you are distracted from this point, write down what distracted you, and go back to the point. This will give you a list of what else matters to you and needs to be either cleaned up or decided.

5. Eat without fanaticism

How to eat right, but not harass yourself with exhausting diets? No need to weigh your food, count calories, or study ingredients - just balance the contents of your plate. Two or even three quarters of a balanced plate should be plant-based foods such as fruits, vegetables, legumes, seeds, nuts, and whole grains. If you work hard to adequately fill this part of the plate, the rest of the decisions will not matter much, and the extra pounds will go away.

6. Conduct a social media audit

Many friends have people with whom you don't want to be in touch all the time. But guilt prevents them from being friends. In fact, it's okay to audit your friends list.

Draw six concentric circles in your notebook. The center circle is you. Name the rest as “day”, “week”, “month”, “year”, “other”. Add to your circle of friends from the list in accordance with the desired frequency of personal communication.

See what happened. Now think about what happens if you friend those who fall into the “other” category? Perhaps nothing terrible will happen, but it will be much easier for you without this communication.

7. Say no to toxic people

Toxic people are the ones who force you to settle for what you don't like. At the same time, you spend a lot of energy communicating with them, and they only wake up your personal gremlins. How can you say no to them and protect your interests?

Don't beat around the bush. When in doubt, toxic people will sense your weakness and try to get the best of you. Speak clearly and clearly:

• I'm sorry, but I can't go with you.
• I will not be able to meet with you.
• I can not come.

8. Apply the "4D" formula

If you are busy, separate them. The formula "4D" will help:

• Let's! Cases that cannot be delayed. If you need to do it now, go ahead and do it.
• Down with! If there is no result from cases, then they have nothing to do on your list. Don't be afraid to say no to meetings you don't want to go to and other people's requests that waste your time.
• Delegate! Cases that can be delegated to another person without loss. Do not try to take control of absolutely all processes. Stop burdening yourself with things that other people can do.
• Until better times! If the case can be postponed until better times, then calmly postpone. Just remember to mark when you plan to implement it.

9. Organize your lists of books, movies and TV shows

Love making lists of interesting books and movies but still can't get over them? But it’s impossible to read and see everything (yes, it’s so)! Divide your list work into two steps.

• First, make a list of books or films that interest you.
• Second, next to each item, list the reasons why you decided to contribute this book or film. Answer the questions: who recommended them to you, why read them or watch them, and what useful things you could learn.

What for? The additional information will help you recall the feelings you had when you decided to add the book to the list. You will remember why you wanted to read it, and either want to do it immediately, or, with peace of mind, decide to cross it off the list.

10. Use the one-touch rule

Papers are part of the chaos. Therefore, as soon as you get a document in your hands, apply the one-touch rule: remove it to the designated place, perform the necessary actions (for example, pay the bill) or throw it away.

11. Set yourself deadlines

Walk around the house with your notebook and pencil and rewrite everything you notice: lamps you want to fix for a long time, old clothes that are out of fashion, kitchen utensils that are gathering dust in anticipation of fresh juices or fondue …

These things are the background that you hardly notice. Next to each item, put down the deadline for getting rid of the trash, and the foreseeable one: the date when you are going to finish what you started. If you don't know when, write “throw it away” and move on to the next item.

12. Throw away everything you don't need

Getting rid of unnecessary things in the house is not easy. But it is not at all necessary to start a global cleaning - point strikes are enough. Throw 10 items from any room every day. Brushing your teeth in the bathroom? Take your trash can with you, open your closet or medicine cabinet and find 10 things to throw away.

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