6 bad reasons to be friends

1. You are relatives

Sisters, brothers - cousins or relatives - uncles, aunts, and so on. The fact that you are related does not mean at all that you have many common interests and goals. Not the fact that you will be comfortable together or you will laugh at the same memes on the Internet.

Research shows that even siblings who grew up in the same family can have very different psychological characteristics. And the same educational approaches work for them in completely different ways.

What can we say about more distant relatives.

So, if once your mother brought you to your cousin and at first everything was fine, and then the friendship was exhausted, you do not have to continue it. There is nothing wrong with stopping or minimizing communication.

2. You have been friends all your life

Well, or just a lot of years. We met in first grade or even in kindergarten, did not stop communicating as a student, visited each other at weddings, congratulated on the birth of children. This is all wonderful, but throughout life people are constantly changing: their interests, goals, views become different.

And even close friends can take completely different paths. And at some point there will be more contradictions between them than points of contact. Perhaps this is one of the reasons why adults gradually begin to lose friends after age 25.

On the one hand, this is sad. But if you no longer find common topics for conversation with a friend and do not want to spend time together, then you have every right to reduce communication to nothing. Breaking up doesn't negate the good things you've had.

3. You are in debt to a friend

Let's say he helped you out in a very difficult situation, supported you financially, made an important and expensive gift. And even if the communication has already bored you, it seems to you that it will be inconvenient to finish it and you will look like a selfish ungrateful bastard.

But paying for the good with a tortured friendship is not a good idea.

In fact, no one will like that a loved one is there only out of a sense of duty - this is even insulting. You can agree that you will gradually return the money, and if a friend needs help, you will always be ready to provide it. To help a person, you don't have to go to his birthday party or drink beer with him at the bar every Friday.

4. You feel pity

Maybe your friend is now having a dark streak and full of troubles, or maybe you just have a presentiment that the breakup will be very difficult for him to experience. And therefore, you heroically continue to communicate with him, although this has not been interesting to you for a long time.

Surely you think that this is humane and noble. After all, you need to feel sorry for a person, but it is not so difficult to be patient and spend your time and energy on it. Only here people most often do not want to be pitied. This is unpleasant and somewhat humiliating. If a person realizes that you are with him only out of pity, he will feel bad and will not say thank you for sure.

5. You spend a lot of time together

For example, you rent an apartment for two, study at the same university, work in the same office. If at the same time you still have a couple of common topics of conversation, it may seem that you just have to become friends.

But friendship, like any close relationship, is more than a common life or even the same interests.

Emotional closeness is important here, which appears absolutely by chance and defies logical explanations. And the fact that you spend several hours a day with a person does not oblige you to invite him to a wedding and baptize children with him. You may well just be polite, friendly and tactful, but no more.

6. You fell in love

Yes, that happens sometimes. After all, a friend is a person with whom you coincide in many ways. He knows how to support you and how to make you laugh, it is interesting to keep quiet with him, laugh, get drunk and cry. Add physical attraction here and you get the perfect partner.

So falling in love with a friend or girlfriend is quite real. But on this note, the friendship will most likely have to end. If the feelings are mutual, you can transfer them to another plane, if not, there is a great chance that it will not work to continue the relationship.