Why people cheat and how to avoid it

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Self-satisfaction and self-affirmation negatively affect relationships and often lead to cheating.

Why do people cheat

Cheating occurs either due to the excessive need of one of the partners for self-affirmation, or due to insufficient closeness between people.

Excessive need for self-affirmation

People who cheat because they need to assert themselves can be roughly divided into two categories: those who suffer from low self-esteem, and those who thus experience their power, which seems to them unlimited.

In the first case, cheating for a person is a way to prove their own importance. In such situations, the matter is usually not limited to betrayal. Such people, due to self-doubt, try to assert themselves in other ways, or, conversely, forget themselves. Among them, there are often workaholics and those who suffer from various addictions.

In the second case, betrayal serves as another demonstration of the power that a person is endowed with. That is why influential people often cheat on their spouses. They prove to themselves that no one can refuse them.

Lack of intimacy

If in a relationship partners are not close enough and open with each other, and there are no clearly defined boundaries of what is permissible, one of them will eventually begin to change.

There are two types of relationships that end in adultery:

• One of the partners does absolutely everything for the other and forgives any mistakes, and in the end discovers that he has been cheated on and feels cheated. But the second partner believed that betrayal would be forgiven him in the same way as everything else was forgiven before.
• One of the partners is overly jealous and behaves like an owner. The second may violate loyalty simply because he is treated like a traitor. If he changes, such an attitude will at least be deserved.

How to avoid cheating

Don't date people who need to constantly assert themselves

If you do not want to be cheated on, just do not start a relationship with someone who constantly strives to assert themselves and always put their needs first.

Don't be fooled: you will not change such a person and you will not be able to give him what he needs. In order not to suffer, do not create illusions and find a more suitable partner.

Set boundaries

Clearly delineate the boundaries of what is allowed in the relationship and set the rules. Learn to say no.

In a healthy relationship, partners don't go along with each other. They know how to defend their interests and maintain their own dignity.

Work on relationships

Don't take your other half for granted. Always be mindful of both your needs and hers. Relationships are not a heavy burden, but a conscious choice for each of you. If this is not the case, the personal interests of the partner will one day outweigh the value of the relationship and your closeness, then he will go to seek solace on the side.