From elzing to jacking: 7 trends that add headaches to relationships

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Sometimes old problems are hidden behind new capacious names, but not only.

1. Eclipsing

Translated from English, eclipse means "eclipse". And the word "eclipsing" describes a situation when a person begins to diligently share the hobbies of a partner in order to impress him. He goes to football matches and memorizes the names of football players, runs through the woods with a gun loaded with paint, watches an arthouse movie, studies carpentry. Even if in fact all this is infinitely far from him.

There is nothing wrong with being carried away by the same thing as a loved one. But only if you really like it and you do not forget about your own hobbies and interests. Otherwise, you can lose yourself, allow yourself to "overshadow" your own personality and completely dissolve in your partner.

2. Dialtoning

Imagine the situation. You met a nice person and, giving in to an impulse, left him your contacts. And when the first impression subsided, they came to the conclusion that you don't really like him and you still don't want to communicate with him. At the same time, there is not enough courage to say this honestly, so you simply ignore his calls and messages. Has this ever happened?

If yes, then you were engaged in dial tone (from English dial tone). This comic term denotes malicious ignorance of a person immediately after meeting.

3. Typecasting

This word is used in two cases. First, as an unofficial cinematic term used to describe a situation when an actor becomes a hostage to one role and is taken to play characters of the same type - only villains, only heroes-lovers, only eccentric tricksters.

Secondly - and in this sense, typecasting began to be used relatively recently - it is a careful selection of future partners according to certain, rather rigid and meaningless criteria. Only blondes, only archers and crayfish, all except "Balzaks", men not less than 180 cm, women with breasts not less than the third size.

The key point of typecasting is that all these parameters - height, zodiac sign, eye color, socionic type - in fact, almost do not characterize a person. These are weird and unscientific ways of typing people. That is, finding a partner who, like you, is fond of yoga, classical music or travel is no longer typecasting.

4. Elsing

It seems that you communicate normally, and then the person begins to behave more and more distantly, gradually increases the distance, not too willingly and happily responds to messages. Coldness appears and intensifies in a relationship - and in the end, the partner disappears from the radar.

In the English-speaking space, this behavior began to be called elzing - in honor of the Disney princess Elsa from "Frozen", who froze the whole kingdom. In the Russian language, by the way, there is a slang word close in meaning - "freeze".

5. Cose-placing

Sometimes a person does not disappear from your life gradually, as in the case of elzing, but suddenly begins to ignore you, stops responding to messages and calls. If this were all over, it would be called ghosting: there was a man, and then there was a ghost.

But sometimes the former "ghosts" come back to life and again declare themselves. And not just like that, but because they need something from you. So that you can borrow money, give contacts of a good specialist, let you live, translate the text, draw a logo. Such cunning and mercantile behavior has received its own term - cose-playing (from the English cause playing, which can be shortly translated into Russian as “an attempt to breed for help”).

6. Jekyling

Dr. Jekyll from the novel by Robert Stevenson "The Strange Story of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde" has long been a legendary character. About a respectable doctor who periodically released the dark part of his nature and turned into a cruel monster, they shot films and cartoons, drew comics, and made computer games. And now they began to call his name a rather unpleasant tendency in relationships, or rather, in acquaintances.

It manifests itself as follows. When a person wants to get acquainted, he says compliments, behaves nicely, politely and benevolently. But as soon as he gets a refusal, even quite tactful and reasoned, he seems to be replaced. He begins to shower insults, threaten, shout, show aggression.

7. White Closing

This word describes a situation when someone is dating a person who seems boring just because that person looks great. This trend got its name thanks to the low-alcohol drink White Claw - its strength is enough to make your head spin a little, but not enough to really get drunk.