What is delusional and how to understand what is being played with your senses

But the matter does not go beyond hints and flirting. Moreover, a person may even disappear for a few days, and then, as if nothing had happened, bombard you with messages. If this is the case, perhaps your senses are being played. And they do it deliberately. In the English-language media, this behavior was even given a special name - delusional.

What is delusional

From English, this playful term literally translates as "scattering bread crumbs." That is, a person is quite active in social networks and, like crumbs, throws hints here and there that he likes you. Likes your photos, flirts in messengers, writes meaningful comments with a bunch of hearts, kisses and flowers.

And you happily follow this trail of crumbs, but you run into emptiness: the relationship does not develop in any way.

Bradcrambing is one of those problems that the internet brings to our relationships. In addition to it, there is also ghosting, gatsbing, orbiting and other words that annoy the fighters for the purity and invariability of the Russian language. By the way, it has a couple of excellent synonyms for delusional cracking: misleading, playing with other people's feelings.

Psychologists believe that people do this for several reasons:

You are not very attractive to a person, but he is afraid to abruptly cut off communication.
He doesn't know how to take the next step.
The person is already in a relationship, and with you it just kills boredom.
He looks for ways to get attention and indulge his pride, but he really doesn't really need a relationship.

How to tell if you are being misled

Emotional swing rides you

Yesterday you exchanged meaningful, playful messages all evening, and today a person answers your remarks in monosyllables, with a long delay. Or he doesn't answer at all and completely disappears from sight for several days, making you quite anxious. And after you return, it starts scattering likes, flirting comments and virtual smiles in front of you again.

As a result, you feel very stupid. At first, you are overwhelmed by the anticipation of a new meeting, perhaps a slight fall in love and excitement. Then, when the manipulator stops responding to you or throws short cold remarks, you fall into an abyss of guilt and disappointment. But as soon as he reappears on the horizon with his compliments and emoticons - and it seems to you that everything is fine.

There is no depth and specificity in your communication

“If a person flirts so actively, then he is definitely in love,” we think. And we do not notice that this is just flirting for the sake of flirting.

For example, the interlocutor tells you that he wants to see you, but does not make an appointment.

Moreover, such communication is often rather superficial. Someone who deliberately plays with your senses is not trying to get to know you better. He hardly asks about your interests, preferring a casual exchange of jokes, compliments and hints.

You are being hooked

For example, they ignore it in the messenger, but like your photo on social networks and watch your stories. That is, they do not disappear with the ends, as the guests do, but are constantly present somewhere in the information field, making you believe that you are really interesting. This makes it much more difficult for you to admit that the relationship will not work out, and to get rid of such a manipulator.

What if someone plays with you

Bradcrambing usually appears where the relationship has not really begun, so formally there is no tragedy in this. But the situation is still pretty unpleasant: an emotional cocktail of guilt, hope, falling in love and disappointment can pretty much get on your nerves and undermine self-esteem.

If your senses are being played on, you have two options. The first is for the brave. You need to tell the person that you like him and directly ask him how he feels and whether he wants to continue the relationship.

Still, there is a small chance that he is just shy and expects you to push him.

But if you do not receive any intelligible answer - the interlocutor will disappear again, start to play around and laugh it off, which means that this relationship is not worth your time and your worries.

Option two - just stop communicating without any further conversation. And it is also better to block the manipulator in social networks and instant messengers - so that it does not embarrass and distract you with my smiles, messages and comments.