5 questions for those who are unhappy with their lives

2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44

Answer them to get off the ground.

Sometimes we feel like we’re stuck: the usual actions do not come close to family well-being, financial gain, maximum productivity, success, and happiness. To improve your life, sometimes it’s worth breathing out a little and pulling back, asking yourself a few questions and giving honest answers. Such reflection will help you better understand yourself and your emotions.

1. What prevents you from acting?

The deeds, questions, and words that we fear most are often exactly what we need to do, ask, or say.

Timothy Ferriss writer

More often than not, it is not others who hold us back, but our own inner voice. He says that we are not smart enough or strong enough, that our attempts are doomed to failure. If you feel that you are standing still and your dialogues with your inner self do not end well, just ignore it.

Some people let their fears take over. One way to defeat them and silence your inner voice is to acknowledge and voice what you fear.

Imagine the worst case scenario, and you will feel the fears begin to recede.

Timothy Ferriss

Timothy Ferriss developed an exercise called Fear Management. He showed that after his fear migrated from thoughts to paper, it was easier to defeat him in real life.

What is holding you back?

2. Whose permission are you waiting for?

You don't need someone's permission to pursue your dream. Just go.

Gary Vaynerchuk entrepreneur and writer

American serial entrepreneur and author of books Gary Vaynerchuk believes that the only permission you need to get before doing anything is your own.

Don't wait for someone to approve of your choice. If you want to quit, quit without waiting for peer approval. If you want to establish contact with your child, start today, without thinking about what your ex-wife has to say. If you want to lose weight, eat healthy foods and don't worry about what others think.

Vaynerchuk admits that as a child he was obsessed with the idea of writing stories, but was too afraid of what other people would say about them. He waited for someone to choose him, pat him on the shoulder and ask about it. He was waiting for permission.

“If you want to do something, stop waiting for someone to ask you about it. Go and do great things. When you succeed, the fans will appear on their own, but now you shouldn't worry about them,”advises Gary.

3. What are you really passionate about?

The most powerful weapon on Earth is the burning human soul.

Ferdinand Foch French military leader

If you want to be free and develop, ask yourself: "What kindles the fire in me?"

What makes you happy? What really fascinates you? Steve Jobs, an entrepreneur and one of the founders of Apple, knew the answer to this question from an early age: he was fascinated by design. Designing simple products is what kindled the fire in him.

Think about what you are obsessed with. Doing this will keep you focused, motivated, and productive.

4. Do you make a commitment?

A person's quality of life is directly proportional to his desire for excellence, no matter what he does.

Vince Lombardi is an American football player and coach

Commitments made and promises made to yourself are the bridge between you and your ideal life. If you are unhappy with your marriage, check to see if you are fulfilling your obligations as husband and father (or wife and mother). If you are earning less than you would like, make sure you work conscientiously.

If you want to reach your goal, promise yourself to take steps towards it. Only they will help you go to success according to the plan and only they will make you do what you need, regardless of external circumstances.

If you want results, you have to take responsibility for your work.

If you are interested in doing something, then you do it when it is convenient for you. And if you made a commitment, then you will do it in any circumstances. No excuses, just results.

Ken Blanchard writer

Therefore, if you want to improve your life, do not indulge yourself.

5. What changes are you expecting?

We always have a choice: take a step forward or return to where it is safe.

Abraham Maslow psychologist and founder of humanistic psychology

Are you trying to find a balance between work and personal life? Do you want to start your own business? Do you need to restore your health? Are you learning to deal with anger? Or are you trying to improve your relationship with your partner? Define your goal and state it as precisely as possible.

The power of correct goal-setting and attitude is exemplified by the example of What Breaking the 4-Minute Mile Taught Us About the Limits of Conventional Thinking by Roger Bannister, a medical student from London who, at the age of 25, decided to run a mile (1.6 km) in less than 4 minutes. It was 1954 - then it was believed that a person was not capable of such a thing.

Bannister has developed his own training regimen. But psychological preparation turned out to be even more important. He changed his mindset from "this is impossible" to "I want to be the first to do this." On May 6, 1954, Bannister ran a mile in 3 minutes and 59.4 seconds.

Roger Bannister shut up his inner voice, gave himself permission to become great, realized that running kindled a fire in him, promised himself to be the first person to run a mile in 4 minutes, and clearly understood what his goal was.

Outcome

If you are having trouble making progress towards your goal, ask yourself these five questions. When you answer them, you will realize that you are stronger than you thought. Don't let fear and society get in your way. You have the power to follow your dreams and achieve your goals.

Don't let negative thinking control your feelings. There is nothing wrong with self-criticism: it helps to admit that something went wrong and to adjust the plan of action. But excessive self-flagellation can lead to the fact that you begin to identify with your shortcomings.

Learn to admit failures and shortcomings correctly. Instead of "I'm a loser," say, "I'm out of luck." Instead of bitterly calling yourself a smoker, say, "I am a smoker now." Instead of “I'm fat,” say that you are overweight and you know how to get rid of it.

The essence of positive thinking is not to ignore your shortcomings, but to not revel in regretting failure. When you are not happy with yourself, focus not on your emotions, but on what you can do to change it. You can start thinking positively with a dialogue with yourself.