Table of contents:
- 1. We don't know where to start
- 2. We don't know how to prioritize
- 3. We complicate things
- 4. We are afraid
2024 Author: Malcolm Clapton | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 03:44
If you do not fight them, fear, the habit of complicating things and other reasons will always prevent you from fulfilling your desires.
The question "Why doesn't a person do?" tricky. Usually the answer is not knowing what to do and how to do it. But today, for the majority of "want", search engines give out hundreds of ideas and advice, no matter what it is about: from losing weight to finding a vocation. If everything is so simple, then why not go ahead and do it?
Because the problem is actually desire. But how to awaken it is a completely different question.
There are many reasons why people, even with strong motivation, manage to stagnate in one place. Below I give my options and I am sure that familiarity with them will help you move forward.
1. We don't know where to start
This is the first question that should arise when we have any desire. Only I'm not talking about "well, it would be nice", but about what I really want to do.
In this regard, people are divided according to the principle of "if" and "when". The first ones come up with a thousand conditions to start, and the second ones determine the nearest deadline.
If the question is "Where to start?" set on time, the process will get off the ground. Do you want to become an artist? Today we sign up for courses, tomorrow we buy paints and canvas. A person is not ready to take minimal steps to realize a desire only in one case - if in fact he did not want it.
The truth is, as the Chinese proverb says, the journey of a thousand li begins with the first step. Is always.
2. We don't know how to prioritize
Okay, I know where to start. For example, I want to lose weight and I need to start by running. What's next? You need to buy sneakers, negotiate with a friend, check the weather forecast …
No.
You need to go outside and run. Like Forrest Gump. Remember how it was in the movie?
- Why are you doing this?
- I just want to run.
When we have a desire and we are determined with the first step, by inertia, the second, third, fourth and, as a result, a couple of alternatives and distracting maneuvers arise in our head. Here we get lost and forget what we actually need.
The rule for dealing with this ailment is simple - always bring the first stage of the plan to the end.
Are you going to start running? Put on your sneakers and go outside, wind a couple of circles around the house. I'm serious right now. If you don't like it now, with a full charge of motivation, then why would you suddenly like it later? Because you will be running in the stadium and wearing your favorite jersey? Prioritize: try it, follow through and decide.
3. We complicate things
The favorite phrase of a person who does not want to change anything is "it's not that simple." No matter how much I asked about examples of what exactly includes this complex "everything", so far to no avail. Each time it turned out that it was possible to find an alternative and adjust. There would be a desire.
Any business broken down into small tasks is easier to accomplish. To get in shape, it seems, is not easy to lose 10 kg, but it is quite easy to spend 15 minutes a day exercising and eliminating refined sugar from the diet.
I agree, there are situations when we are not complicating everything, but the situation turns out to be really difficult. Then ask yourself, "How can I simplify things?" I will never believe that no alternative can be found.
And then everything rests on the well-known expression: "There are no bad options, there are options that we don't like."
4. We are afraid
From the bricks of fear, a wall is built around the comfort zone. "I feel good here, so it will be bad outside." Therefore, everything new is perceived by us with hostility. Based on this, people are divided into two categories.
The first are conservatives. They are afraid to change something, do not try anything and live in their bubble all their lives. It's not bad if everything suits him. Provided that a person does not want change, but at the same time achieves what he wants, and is happy - the flag is in his hands.
The second are innovators. On the contrary, they are afraid to stop. For them, fear is born in the question "What if I leave everything as it is?" They are afraid of losing time, health, relationships and therefore put more effort.
In both cases, the person is afraid. Only in the first case, fear makes him stand, and in the second - to move and change.
Ask yourself, "What if I leave this as it is?" If you're happy with the answer, congratulations, join the Happy Conservative group. If not, it's time to change something.
These reasons, of course, cannot be called exhaustive. I have highlighted those that I have come across. I hope they will allow you to avoid my mistakes.
As athlete Joe Lewis said, "you only live once, but if you do everything right, then that's enough."
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